What's up with women today bashing each other?
This new trend is making me so angry and, yet, sad at the same time.
My news feed has been filled lately with women bashing other women for what they're wearing, how they're aging, and numerous other perceived violations.
➡️ Catherine Zeta Jones is too old to have worn the dress she did at Cannes.
➡️ Andie MacDowell looks ten years older because she no longer dyes her hair. Same with Jody Foster.
➡️ Helen Mirren is shocking everyone because she has long hair at her age.
And that's just the tip of the iceberg.
It doesn't include the myriad of derogatory comments that get made about both older and younger women.
Women are all over the Internet acting like trolls towards other women and it pisses me off!!!
First - Just because you have an opinion, doesn't mean you have to state it, nor is it necessarily relevant. Women should be lifting each other up, not beating each other down.
Now, that doesn't mean you can't have an opinion. You absolutely should. Just consider why you feel the need to respond if it's negative. Is the information you're providing useful? Is it necessary?
If the answer is no, then let it go...
Err on the side of "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
Let's quit being shitty to each other. If you can't say something positive, then keep your opinion to yourself.
When you demean other women, you don't just hurt them. You attack us all and further disempower women everywhere.
Stop being part of the problem!!
Second - Quit buying into the bullshit that women have to follow certain rules. Those edicts were designed to control our behavior, and most of them have been created by men.
You don't see a whole lot of fashion rules for men, do you? No.
That's because they're not the biggest consumer - women are - and those rules are designed to change on a regular basis to get us to consume more product.
Same with the beauty industry.
The number of dollars aimed at preventing women from aging is staggering.
Manufacturers want women to believe they need to look younger to feel sexy, lovable, relevant because that means we'll buy the lie they're selling.
And, of course, the media, social and otherwise, only further perpetuate these beliefs.
Films continually have older males as the lead, usually with much younger love interests. Meanwhile, women the same age are traditionally stuck with matronly roles.
Photoshop and filters make it difficult to know what's real and what's not. But, again, this is mostly done to women.
And, it's all a load of crap!
The truth is some man somewhere figured out the psychology of women and started using it against us.
This is a game that's been going on for a long time, decades, centuries even. We've been manipulated for ages into doing what others think is best and it's time for it to stop.
💥 It's time for us to take back our ability to stand in our own essence and authenticity.
💥 It's time to create our own rules about who we are, what we can do, and how we want to be seen.
But, that won't happen if we're not supporting each other.
Every time a woman bashes another woman over some societal belief, they remove us further and further from our true nature. One that is compassionate and cooperative. And that saddens me to no end.
Quit playing the men's game of competition.
Stop allowing them to strip you of your feminine power and authenticity.
Start lifting up and supporting women instead of putting them down.
Start cheering on the women who are unapologetically themselves, who embrace aging naturally, who wear WTF they want.
Those are the women we need to emulate!!!
When women stand together, we grow stronger, we have more impact, and we can change the world.
Let's shake up the status quo.
P.S. I'm working on a new Mini Movement Magic course called The Pandora Effect, which will explain more about the reasons women get conditioned away from their authenticity. Stay tuned.
In the meantime, check out how these kinds of comments can drive women to be inauthentic and the effects it has in the blog, Real or Fake: Why It Matters.